
How not to raise your children?
Parenting is a vague aspect of life. All parents have unique approaches on how to raise their child. That being said, there are some steps that are commonly acceptable when it comes to raising children. Below are some steps on some implications you can apply to your parenting:
- Don’t thank your child when they help you in the kitchen.
We generally thank someone after they help us. So is the case among children. But, when it comes to children helping with daily chores, they should understand it’s not just their mother’s or father’s responsibility to work in the kitchen and feed them. Everyone in the family should be equally responsible. We see young children trying to help their mother with chores while she is on her ownand we get amused when they do so. This kind of response makes them feel that they are favoring you. So, the next time you see your child leaving the dishes in the dining room, ask them to clean it and don’t thank them for doing it.
2. Don’t say “You can’t do it”.
We often think that people are bound to perform certain tasks after they reach a specific age. (With the ideology that most of us think that people get better with age.) However, this is not always true. Human beings need to learn and experience things before they start to do things correctly, no matter what age they are. But there are certain things that you need to teach your child when they reach an age that include:
- Going to the grocery for buying daily essentials
- Having conversations with older ones at home.
- Disagreeing with parent’s idea/ thoughts.
- Making phone calls and inviting relatives to their home.
3. Don’t boast about your child.
Boasting is common among parents. They love talking about their children to other people. No parent ever says that their ward can’t do a certain thing. When we boast about our child, it’s not us who speak, but our love. It’s OKAY to boast but you need to be careful how to say things. Consider an instance: Let’s say your child stood first in the class and you want to share the moment with others. So instead of saying that your child is very talented, or he always stands first in the class, you can say that your child is very hardworking, and because of their hard work, they stood first in the class. Children need to realize that their achievements are sole results of their hard work.
4. Eradicate comparisons.
Every parent loves to share their kid’s achievement with people they talk to. Most times, as you share the feats of one kid, the other one feels inferior. The safest way to praise them in this situation is to relate their achievement with the hard work they’ve put on. All kids might not have similar capabilities in a certain field. One might be excelling in academics while the other in sports. Thus, the subtle comparisons might eventually lead to loss in confidence in kids and might even create a toxic rivalry.